We really don’t like the word failure let alone actually failing! I have no idea where this fear of failure comes into our lives, but it does seem to set up camp and not want to leave. It may be the lessons we learn in childhood from parents or teachers,…
In a previous post I talked about the art of listening, closely tied with that is the art of speaking and it truly is an art. It takes practice, good technique, and a little finesse. As any good artist knows it takes a kind of dedication that will keep you…
One good way to NOT get what you want is to try to control or manipulate others into giving you what you want. The end result will be resentment and a lack of love and respect from whomever you are trying to control or manipulate. They may give you the…
Ever heard a couple have this conversation: “You aren’t listening!” “Yes, I am! I heard exactly what you said.” “Well, what did I say?” “You said…..”? This is a fairly typical conversation, especially between husbands and wives or parents and children. The first person is asking to be listened to…
Last post I talked about how when we live down to others expectations for our lives we limit what we can achieve and what we can enjoy. When I was a kid in elementary school we were taught if we ever caught on fire to Stop, Drop, and Roll. So…
I recently blogged about the energy wasting activity of trying to change others, and in thinking about it a little more realize that there is another activity that is a drain on our energy: trying to live up to others’ expectations of us no matter how unrealistic they may be.…
In the last post we talked about how so many of us waste our energy trying to change other people and how we set ourselves up to fail because it is impossible to change others. Are you ready to change how you approach change? Interestingly the way you view change…
With all the things that we have to do everyday, there aren’t many of us that can afford to waste time or energy. There just doesn’t seem to be enough to go around if we do. One of the biggest energy sucking activities that we can get caught in is…
In continuation of our topic from yesterday I am curious what was it like for you to think about the things that have you feeling like a doormat? Did you notice any patterns? Did you find yourself wishing that things were different in your life? Let me tell you that…
In the previous to posts I talked about boundaries, their benefit, and a few tips about changing your thinking surrounding boundaries. In case you didn’t read them, I used the analogy of a “grumpy old man” defending his lawn against kids on bikes and dogs and anything else seen by…
